Ashley was married very young, but unfortunately, things didn’t work out.
“I was really lonely and I met someone. He seemed absolutely wonderful,” she recalls. “There were little things that he would do, but I was just so head over heals in love with this guy that I just went along with it.”
Then one day, Ashley and her boyfriend were driving down 13th Avenue and her life took a terrible turn for the worse.
“I don’t even know what I said, but the next thing I knew, I was being punched in the jaw,” she painfully recalls.
That’s when the physical abuse started.
“He would apologize: ‘I’m so sorry, honey. I’m so sorry. I won’t do it again. I’m so sorry.’”
But it kept happening, more and more often.
“I knew I didn’t want to be with him, but I was stuck,” Ashley recalls. “He watched me so much that I couldn’t get away.”
About two years into the relationship, Ashley found out she was pregnant.
“He got so angry with me that he threw me across the room and repeatedly kicked me in my stomach,” she says.
Not long after, Ashley ended up in the hospital having a miscarriage. That’s when she knew things had to change.
“I called my dad and said, ‘Papa, I need you to come and get me. I’m going to leave him. I don’t think I can get access to a phone once he comes home. I need you to come get me.”
Ashley’s dad told her he would be right there, but while she was waiting, her boyfriend unexpectedly came home and saw her packed bags at the door.
“I told him, I’m leaving you. I’m done. I can’t do this anymore. I deserve way better than this,” she says. “And he used those 10 minutes before my dad came to beat me because I was leaving.”
But she did it. She left.
And as her dad was driving her away, she says she could feel the weight being lifted off her shoulders.
Shortly after, Ashley was given a fresh start. She met someone new.
“Chad’s everything I always wanted in a man. I am so blessed to have him in my life,” Ashley says. “I’m blessed he was there when he was there to help me.”
The couple started coming to church together at My Victory and went to counselling.
“Going from an abusive relationship there is a lot of baggage there and God really helped with that. He came through. He always comes through.”
I don’t even know what I said, but the next thing I knew, I was being punched in the jaw.
Ashley ended up in the hospital having a miscarriage. That’s when she knew things had to change.